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Trait and Type Assessment
Emotional Intelligence
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Circle the answers that come closest to your own emotional response.
1. Your child, in direct contravention to your orders, runs into a busy road. You pull him/her back and:
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a) smack or shake him/her?
b) master your emotions and explain why this was not a good idea?
c) master your emotions and resolve upon subsequent punishment?
Prefer not to answer
2. You then:
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a) tell the child off and threaten him/her with dire punishment?
b) apologize and explain that mummy/daddy was frightened?
c) burst into tears?
Prefer not to answer
3. It annoys you to:
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a) have to make the most of your physical attributes at work?
b) see others making the most of their physical attributes at work?
c) See others unkempt or sloppily dressed at work?
Prefer not to answer
4. You are infuriated with your partner. Do you:
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a) refuse to speak for days?
b) swear, and go for a walk?
c) plot revenge?
Prefer not to answer
5. Your parent/parent in-law is nagging, sarcastic and interfering. You principal feeling is:
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a) resentment?
b) resignation?
c) pity?
Prefer not to answer
6. Grief is:
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a) a necessary and salutary process?
b) something which time will heal?
c) a blight on your life?
Prefer not to answer
7. Does worry serve a purpose:
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a) sometimes?
b) never?
c) always?
Prefer not to answer
8. You are outraged by a newspaper story. Do you:
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a) Rant at your friends/family?
b) write a letter to the newspaper?
c) become depressed?
Prefer not to answer
9. Is your anger:
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a) a spur to change?
b) a spur to hurt or destroy things?
c) destructive of yourself?
Prefer not to answer
10. Time is, above all:
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a) the great healer?
b) the great destroyer?
c) to be ignored or vanquished?
Prefer not to answer
11. A violent crime is, to you:
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a) "a reflection of a general trend in society?"
b) "an isolated, tragic case from which we can draw a lesson?"
c) "an outrage about which something should be done?"
Prefer not to answer
12. You like music to be primarily:
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a) soothing?
b) exciting?
c) deeply moving?
Prefer not to answer
Look at the following numbers. How do you immediately define them?
13. One
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a) solitary, lonely?
b) erect, proud?
c) slim, tight?
Prefer not to answer
14. eight
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a) plump, jolly?
b) fat, squat?
c) dual, divided?
Prefer not to answer
15. seven
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a) elegant, relaxed?
b) magical, mystical?
c) slimy, sidling?
Prefer not to answer
16. Children are most likely to succeed if they read:
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a) fairy tales?
b) educational books?
c) history?
Prefer not to answer
17. Nudism is:
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a) beautiful or funny?
b) disgusting or pathetic?
c) it depends on the bodies?
Prefer not to answer
18. How would you describe your body?
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a) unsatisfactory, ugly?
b) far from perfect, but it does its job and attracts people that matter?
c) pretty darned good, thanks?
Prefer not to answer
19. You see a beautiful member of your own sex. Do you feel:
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a) admiration?
b) envy?
c) scorn?
Prefer not to answer
20. You bear a given name, but always have the choice to use another. If you have not done so, how do you feel about that name?
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a)I don't like it/hate it?
b) I like it. It suits me?
c) It doesn't really suit me, but I can't be bothered to change?
Prefer not to answer
21. The way our body works causes me:
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a) admiration, wonder?
b) indifference?
c) revulsion?
Prefer not to answer
22.Your hero/heroine is/was:
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a) a feisty fighter?
b) a victim who fought back?
c) first and foremost a giver, and a star?
Prefer not to answer
23. Life is:
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a) a bitch?
b) a party?
c) a battle to be enjoyed?
Prefer not to answer
24. War is:
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a) a sorry, inevitable consequence of beloved human nature?
b) a terrible crime?
c) when we are truly alive?
Prefer not to answer
25. You are in a foreign country where you have but a smattering of the language. You want to have an avocado, a lamb chop and a bottle of wine. Do you:
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a) look up the right words in the dictionary and the phrase book?
b) ask for goods in your mother tongue and assume that someone will be found who speaks it?
c) have a go at the host country's tongue, coupled with mime and farmyard noises?
Prefer not to answer
26. You hear a mocking laughter from a corner as you walk across a room. You:
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a) scowl defiantly?
b) inspect your clothing and scurry for cover?
c) draw yourself to your full height and smile broadly at the people laughing?
Prefer not to answer
27. Which most closely describes your mood of an early morning?
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a) tetchy and impatient?
b) jolly and encouraging?
c) tranquil and purposeful?
Prefer not to answer
28. When you order clothes made, you order them:
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a) smaller than your current size, because you are going to lose weight?
b) your current size?
c) with plenty of 'growing-room'?
Prefer not to answer
29. Would a partner's infidelity:
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a) make you feel inadequate?
b) sadly show up his/her inadequacies?
c) sadly demonstrate that your relationship is inadequate?
Prefer not to answer
30. You are about to enter a crowded room, full of chattering, glittering people, alone. Do you:
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a) resolve to sneak in and skulk in the corner until you see a familiar face?
b) assure yourself that you are as bright and attractive as anyone else there?
c) have absolutely no problem. A couple of drinks, and you'll take the party by storm?
Prefer not to answer
31. A person who knows you well ignores your greeting and passes you without a word or smile. Do you:
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a) assume that he/she was preoccupied?
b) take offence and brood?
c) pursue and ask him/her what you have done wrong?
Prefer not to answer
32. The couple in the apartment above are noisy during the night. Do you:
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a) feel resentful and bang on the ceiling?
b) bury your head under the pillow?
c) awake your partner and whisper that you might as well make similar noise yourselves?
Prefer not to answer
33. Christmas is:
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a) hell on earth?
b) a magical time?
c) tough, but worth it?
Prefer not to answer
34. New Year is:
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a) hell on earth?
b) an excuse for a wild party?
c) an excuse for a quiet night in?
Prefer not to answer
35. The intolerable thing in a relationship is:
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a) indifference.
b) infidelity.
c) rows.
Prefer not to answer
36. Your boss holds a door open for you. You:
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a) walk through with a grateful smile?
b) say, “no, please, after you.”?
c) walk through, saying, “thank you very much.”?
Prefer not to answer
37. Friends and people whom you respect assure you that a certain sort of music is wonderful. You hear it once and dislike it. Do you:
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a) pretend to like it?
b) openly avow your distaste?
c) keep an open mind and listen to it again?
Prefer not to answer
38. Your best friend’s wife/husband is acting inappropriately. Friends find this amusing. Do you:
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a) advertise the offending party at least to be discreet?
b) tell your best friend?
c) join in the secret laughter?
Prefer not to answer
39. In our society physical relationships are seen as:
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a) a way of asserting yourself and gaining pleasure?
b) a way of surrendering yourself and giving pleasure?
c) a way of attaining all of these?
Prefer not to answer
40. A crowd roars its approval of a speech. Do you:
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a) automatically mistrust the crowd-impulse?
b) get caught up in the crowd's approval?
c) buy the text and go home to consider?
Prefer not to answer
41. How often do you leave the phone off the hook or the cell phone switched off?
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a) often - on holiday, in restaurants, in the bath etc.?
b) never - it could be important?
c) seldom - you like to keep in touch?
Prefer not to answer
42. In a restaraunt, you are served food which is cold, over-salted or plain revolting. Do you:
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a) summon the waiter and quietly ask to have the dish replaced?
b) say nothing for fear of a row?
c) say nothing until the end of the meal, then insist on a reduction in the bill?
Prefer not to answer
43. Solitude for a full day or evening is:
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a) intolerable without the radio/television/telephone?
b) a delight, a chance to think and to recharge the batteries?
c) intolerable, inducing a sense of failure?
Prefer not to answer
44. Your partner is invited on a company trip abroad. You are:
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a) delighted for him/her and looking forward to seeing non-mutual friends?
b) resentful. You will head down to the travel agent on your own account?
c) outwardly supportive, but storing up recriminations for future use?
Prefer not to answer
45. "Worry is a horse which you whip but only circles." You worry:
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a) never?
b) only when it can lead to solutions?
c) all the time?
Prefer not to answer
46. You are hard-pressed for money. A bill arrives in the mail. Do you:
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a) Leave it unopened until you can pay it?
b) open it and fall into depression?
c) open it and instantly telephone the sender to propose terms of settlement?
Prefer not to answer
47. Having a partner is?
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a) a necessity?
b) a luxury?
c) a part of the furniture?
Prefer not to answer
48. Music is:
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a) to be heard while doing other things?
b) to be listened to alone?
c) to create an atmosphere when with others?
Prefer not to answer
49. A close friend dies. You are - honestly - most concerned at:
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a) your own loss?
b) his/her family's loss?
c) the circumstances of the death?
Prefer not to answer
50. Illness in yourself, preventing work or fun, is:
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a) a damned nuisance, but inevitable?
b) devestating and unfair?
c) someone else's fault?
Prefer not to answer
51. A friend is in the hospital. You:
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a) take fruit and flowers and stay a good long time?
b) take magazines, letters and photographs and visit briefly?
c) cannot stand hospitals and stay away?
Prefer not to answer
52. Depression makes you:
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a) attack or sulk at your partner?
b) eat/drink too much?
c) go shopping?
Prefer not to answer
53. You are not invited to be a godparent to the child of someone whom you had thought to be your dearest friend. You:
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a) send the child a loving letter and an expensive present?
b) say nothing, and assume that your friend's reasons will become clear in due course?
c) take offense and vow that you will have nothing more to do with your friend?
Prefer not to answer
54. Stood up for a date, you:
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a) get defiantly drunk/defiantly pick up someone else?
b) shrug and return home to a good book?
c) persist in phoning the offender way into the wee small hours?
Prefer not to answer
55. You are most likely to cry at:
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a) happiness, romance, love triumphant?
b) rejection, death, disaster?
c) sacrifice, reninciation, courage?
Prefer not to answer
56. Which quotations most closely reflects your views?
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a) "Love conquers all?"
b) "Men were deceivers ever"/"frailty, thy name is woman?"
c) "It is better to have loved, and lost, than never to have loved at all?"
Prefer not to answer
57. You hear that a close friend or lover has spoken ill of you. Do you:
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a) assume that the message-bearer is malicious or mistaken?
b) assume that the friend was misunderstood or under pressure?
c) launch into a similar attack on the friend/lover?
Prefer not to answer
58. Your partner proposes a change of direction in your life. You:
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a) think it ridiculous and refuse?
b) go along with the idea, but feel embarrassed and worried?
c) go for it?
Prefer not to answer
59. You are stuck in a traffic jam. You:
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a) fume, seethe, curse?
b) fret about the people at your destination?
c) take the opportunity to think, sing, play?
Prefer not to answer
60. Your child or a child in your care is afraid of something which you know to be perfectly harmless - say, a spider. Do you:
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a) talk to him/her, play spider games, make light of the fear?
b) become exasperated, and urge him/her not to be silly?
c) hide the spider or whatever and pretend that it was never there?
Prefer not to answer
61. On vacation, you:
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a) remain at all times in contact with the office?
b) phone once or twice a day to pick up messages, but otherwise devote yourself to your family/friends?
c) forget work?
Prefer not to answer
62. You arrive home after work, on average:
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a) as soon as you can after working hours end
b) in plenty of time for a drink or bath before dinner?
c) just in time for dinner?
Prefer not to answer
63. You dress for work:
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a) with elegance and comfort in mind?
b) to impress/inspire confidence?
c) fashionably?
Prefer not to answer
64. Your principle leisure activities:
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a) are gregarious?
b) are solitary but accompanied by noise (computer-games/background music/television etc.)?
c) are solitary and largely silent?
Prefer not to answer
65. Someone jeers at you or pokes fun at you. Your first response is:
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a) soothing/humorous?
b) firm but cool?
c) angry?
Prefer not to answer
66. Someone jeers or pokes fun at a subordinate in his/her absence. Your first response is:
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a) soothing/humorous?
b) firm but cool?
c) angry?
Prefer not to answer
67. If someone working for you arrived consistently late, you would:
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a) have him/her in for a stern warning?
b) enquire as to his/her circumstances and health?
c) not mind as long as his/her work was OK?
Prefer not to answer
68. Who should be working hardest in the workplace?
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a) the boss?
b) the managers?
c) the bluecollar workers?
Prefer not to answer
69. You want your children, above all, to:
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a) have every material advantage?
b) have a good education, then they're on their own?
c) find their own roles and be happy?
Prefer not to answer
70. You read, mostly:
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a) books and magazines about management/buisness/your trade?
b) biographies?
c) fiction?
Prefer not to answer
71. If you won the lottery, you would:
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a) give large sums of money to family and friends?
b) invest the money and use small sums out of income to enable family and friends?
c) keep the lot for yourself and your descendants?
Prefer not to answer
72. At weekends, you read which page of the newspaper first?
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a) social/opinions/sports?
b) financial?
c) arts?
Prefer not to answer
73. How many hours leisure do you have in every twenty-four hours?
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a) 4-6
b) 7-9
c) 10-16
Prefer not to answer
74. A colleague is in a filthy mood which is affecting others at the workplace. Do you:
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a) demand that he/she pulls him/herself together?
b) buy him/her a cup of coffee and tell him/her about some problem of your own?
c) ask him or her directly what the trouble is?
Prefer not to answer
75. A good salesman:
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a) sticks rigorously to techniques as trained?
b) uses every trick in the book to make a sale?
c) is sincere and principled?
Prefer not to answer
76. You feel that your immediate superior is working against your interests and those of the company. He/She will not listen to your ideas. Do you:
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a) go over his/her head to his/her superior?
b) quietly canvass the views of your colleagues?
c) work on resentfully and keep the tenuous peace?
Prefer not to answer
77. Someone yawns whilst you are addressing a meeting. Do you:
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a) assume that he/she is not interested or committed?
b) assume that you are being boring?
c) not link the two things at all?
Prefer not to answer
78. A colleague, equal in status to yourself, although outwardly a hard worker, is not pulling his/her weight or is undermining the team spirit. Do you:
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a) express your feelings to him/her?
b) express your feelings to his/her colleagues and superiors?
c) lead by example and insist on his/her participation in your projects?
Prefer not to answer
79. You are in what seems to you a dead-end job, unnoticed, your work taken for granted. Do you:
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a) enroll in a training course, motivate your colleagues, then, if you see no further prospects, look for a new job?
b) look for a new job?
c) complain to your supervisors, then, if you see no improvement, threaten to look for a new job?
Prefer not to answer
80. A client/colleague is angry and impatient and wants results now, regardless of procedure or rules. Do you:
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a) retire behind a screen of regulations and formality?
b) snap back that you are doing the best you can?
c) agree that procedures are infuriating and try to find out why he/she is so agitated?
Prefer not to answer
81. Teamwork is:
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a) a good way of bringing on and instructing the less able?
b) a darned nuisance. You know how to attain your aims and prefer to work alone?
c) the key to good management?
Prefer not to answer
82. A bright young prodigy rockets up the promotion ladder. Do you:
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a) resent him/her and suspect nespotism/unseen favours?
b) seek to make friends with and learn from him/her?
c) sink into depression and a sense of inadequacy?
Prefer not to answer
83. You are negotiating a deal. You approach negotiations:
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a) ready to listen?
b) having identified an upside and a downside and determined to demand the maximum and concede the minimum?
c) knowing what you want and determined to get it?
Prefer not to answer
84. The person with whom you are negotiating a deal refuses to budge from an untenable position but simply bombards you with the same demands. You:
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a) thank him/her for the time, but say that you can see no point in continuing this dialogue and leave the meeting?
b) take up your position and bombard right back?
c) continue to attempt to make him/her listen?
Prefer not to answer
85. Your partner is:
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a) always difficult and demanding?
b) almost never difficult and demanding?
c) impossible, but you love him/her?
Prefer not to answer
86. You are:
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a) forgiving, tolerant, understanding?
b) passionate, devoted, courteous?
c) impossible, but ok really?
Prefer not to answer
87. What does the future hold for the two of you?
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a) tough times, but a lot of fun together?
b) tough times, and you have no faith that things will change?
c) roses all the way?
Prefer not to answer
88. You have financial worries. He/She caresses you on the sofa. You think:
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a) "Why does he/she always choose the wrong moment?"
b) "That's a good idea. Let's take time out from those boring bills?"
c) "I owe it to him/her to snap out of it?"
Prefer not to answer
89. She/He admires a member of the opposite sex on the street. You feel:
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a) amused?
b) furious?
c) here we go again...?
Prefer not to answer
90. He/She says, "Darling, we have got to talk..." You think:
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a) "Not more of his/her wheedling or browbeating."
b) "Uh-oh, what's gone wrong?"
c) "Just what I was going to say."
Prefer not to answer
91. He/She proposes we do something outrageous, which you have previously discussed. You:
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a) react violently, claiming that you went along with the idea only on his/her behest?
b) ask for time to consider, and hope that it will be forgotten?
c) think that this might be rather fun?
Prefer not to answer
92. He/She raises an objection to your plans. You say:
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a) "Oh, well, forget it."
b) "Typical. You can't accept any idea which is not your own."
c) "Hang on a second, darling. Let me think about this..."
Prefer not to answer
93. He/She is always:
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a) enigmatic, confusing, lovely?
b) self-centered, self-absorbed?
c) variable, surprising?
Prefer not to answer
94. Loneliness is:
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a) impossible. You have your own company?
b) a daily experience?
c) being withour your partner?
Prefer not to answer
95. He/She has:
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a) always let you down?
b) never let you down?
c) always amused you, so what the hell?
Prefer not to answer
96. He/She is untidy/lazy/inconsiderate:
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a) as a general rule?
b) occasionally?
c) never?
Prefer not to answer
